A Dad of two boys writes in from Bergen County about “whatever happened to the days of unstructured play, where there we didn’t have playdates”  He then asks “What towns would you say have a good selection of nice houses around a main town playground (that would also include ballfields) within walking distance?”  Even better if walkable to the town as well.

Dear Dad of Two, I too long for those carefree days, but in todays climate it just seems “not safe” to let our kids play freely as they did back then, we get fear from magnification of any bad event widespread by the media, or organized sports/activities have taken over. My children are still quite young, so I’ll have to look forward to the whole “school” era.  I’m an unstructured sort myself, which is partly why i took on this site for the spontaneity of going to a playground vs. a playdate. I’m sure I’m missing some, so I’ll leave it up to our other readers to comment on the bottom of the page..  Here’s my take…

As far as main town playgrounds within walking distance to nice houses, I can tell you I liked Chatham (Memorial Park), Millburn (Taylor Park), Westfield (Mindowaskin Park, no ballfield though), Madison (dodge field)  is great, I heard Montclair is nice (need to visit), Van Saun Park is great, but maybe too large, and not sure about the surrounding houses.. Lyndhurst Town Park is very new, and I can say that it resembles a pretty active community.  You can tell by their website (esp. in the summer) that they were about making community events, including an outdoor movie night… Summit is a pretty good community too, Mabie playground is active and it’s cool to see the seniors out there playing their regular bocce game..

Lots of luck to you, I was just reminiscing how my next door neighbor when I was 11 had a paper route that I used to tag along since mom didn’t let me have one, and then we’d go sledding down one of the streets they closed with all the other kids, all unsupervised having a blast, ahhh the good old days..